Keeping Jesus The Center Of Your Relationship

One of the things that can happen to Christian couples, is once God brings them a relationship, they forget about Jesus and become consumed in the person they are with. That is idolatry and greatly offends God (1 Corinthians 10:14)! A person may wonder why things start to go wrong in the relationship, or why they begin to lose their peace and it is because Jesus is not taking first place in that couples lives. A relationship which has Jesus Christ at the center is a relationship which will be full of peace and truly honor God.

During courtship with my husband, there are some things God led us to do which helped us to keep Him first in our relationship. I would like to share some with you today.

1. Bible Study

Making God’s Word a priority in your relationship is one way to keep Jesus the center of your courtship. While courting, my husband and I would be intentional about setting times in the morning or evenings to do Bible study over the phone. We would also have dates on the weekend and take out time to study the Word. We liked having our fellowships at different locations such as a park or tea house. The Bible teaches that a husband is supposed to wash his wife with the water of the Word (Ephesians 5:25-26), so if you are going to practice this in marriage you should begin to do it in your courtship. I found that our devotional time helped us to keep our minds on Jesus rather than getting wrapped up in one another.

2. Prayer and fasting

During courtship with my husband, one of the things we did together was pray and fast about needs we had in our spiritual lives. We also prayed and fasted regarding our wedding and future marriage, and God was faithful to answer many of our prayers. One of the things which you can even pray and fast for as a couple, is for Jesus to help you keep him the center of your relationship.

3. Talking about God

In a relationship it can be easy to become carried away talking about yourselves and your future, and lose focus of Jesus. It is important to talk about your future and get to know one another, but I found that it’s more fulfilling when we make Christ part of our conversations. The Bible teaches us that we should acknowledge God in all of our ways (Proverbs 3:6). It also teaches us to be purposeful with our conversations. One way to do that is to be intentional to talk about God and The Bible when you and your partner spend time together.

4. Keeping Our Bodies Pure

Practicing the teachings of The Bible in your courtship is how you will have a Christ-centered relationship, and one of the things Scripture teaches regarding relationships is that God created sex for marriage only (1 Corinthians 7:2). During your courtship it is important to honor God by keeping your bodies pure and avoiding anything that could tempt you to have sex before you are married. Living together before marriage is not something that Christians should take part in either. While it is very common for worldly people to do so, this doesn’t please God and opens a door for temptation. If you find it difficult to save yourself for marriage, I encourage you to go into fasting with your partner or by yourself. While it might feel challenging at times, God can give you the power to have self-control, which is a fruit of the Spirit. The Bible teaches we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us!

I pray that these suggestions will help you in your walk with Jesus. Through prayer, God can reveal to you more ways to have a Christ-centered relationship in addition to what I’ve mentioned.

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